One of the many questions that get asked of us is whether or not each person has a type or two that will work better for them. While most people have an idea of what they are looking for, many others end up with somebody that could not be further away from what they thought was their perfect match and realized that they were after all. It is also true that many of these so-called “types” tend to categorize people in ways that do not usually reflect reality.
A person that is extremely into sports is likely to have other interests as well, so classifying them as a jock is likely an oversimplification of who they are as a person. The same thing goes with a lot of other categories of people. Each person is a complex being and combination of a wide variety of things.
Even terms like “nice guy” or “rugged” are not able to describe the complexities of anyone individual accurately. Some people that look “rugged” do not have an attitude that most people would consider “rugged.” Many people whose personalities might be considered geeky, are quite muscular and into sports as well.
The general point is that rather than looking for “types” of people, personality traits and behaviors are likely more critical for continued success in relationships. Finding people that are good communicators, or working on improving their communication skills, can be fantastic catches.
Either way, keeping an open mind when it comes to phone dating and dating in person is the best way to increase your likelihood of having amazing relationships that last for an extended period. Taking the time to get to know people that might not be what you consider your best choice can pay big dividends later in life. Never do this at the risk of your safety and your gut feelings but do consider that most people are more than what they seem and that can be a beautiful thing.
